I don't think you need to. Over the years I've learnt to first appreciate that someone is responding - ignoring is far worse (the typical elite tactic). Then ask myself, does this remark say anything about the sender? (not being heard, hurting, just plain echoing of dogmatic propaganda, etc) Or is it genuinely meant to help me see or understand something? Regardless of how well or hopelessly it is phrased. My partner has taught me to try and phase my possible criticisms in question form. That helps to keep the communication channels open. (yes, I am still very much in the learning phase:).